Tips from a Traditional Matchmaker

We love to see you go!

This isn't just another app. Our mission is to help you leave the platform with a partner - not stay endlessly "talking." We believe in courtship with purpose: meaningful connections that move offline and toward marriage.

1. Begin With Intention

Know why you're here and be upfront about it. This is a space for people who are serious about marriage, not just company.

Your intention sets the tone. Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

2. Less Chatting, More Deciding

You don't need endless texting to know if there's potential. Limit yourself to 3 online conversations (chat, video, or phone) before deciding if it's time to meet.

Chat. Connect. Then meet.

3. Meet in Person Within Reasonable Time

Once you've identified a connection, meet in person — ideally within a few weeks. We believe real compatibility is revealed offline.

3 conversations max then meet for a real-life or at least virtual date.

4. 3 Dates to Decide if You Want to Court

Don't stay in limbo. Use your first three in-person dates to explore alignment on values, lifestyle, and goals. If it feels right, only if it feels right, commit to courtship.

3 real dates bring clarity, not confusion.

5. Courtship leads to exclusivity if there's Intentionality

Courtship is not "just dating." It's a focused, exclusive relationship built on clarity and shared values with the goal of discerning marriage in 3 to 12 months.

If you're not ready to pursue marriage, you're not ready to court.

6. No Sexual Activity Before Commitment

Emotional clarity comes when you keep things clean. We strongly discourage sexual interaction of any kind before exclusivity and courtship. Rushing intimacy clouds judgment and delays real discernment.

Save your body until your heart and commitment are fully invested.

7. Protect Yourself from Scammers

Not everyone is who they claim to be. Stay vigilant:

  • Never send money to anyone you meet online
  • Be cautious of love bombing, fake profiles, or overly emotional stories
  • Report suspicious behavior immediately

Your safety is sacred. Trust your gut and take your time.

8. Ask the Right Questions Early

Get beneath the surface. Ask about:

  • Faith and personal values
  • Long-term vision
  • Readiness for marriage
  • How they resolve conflict
  • Their family relationships

Don't just look for chemistry, look for compatibility.

9. Bring In Community

Healthy courtship doesn't happen in isolation. Talk to mentors, involve elders, and welcome feedback from those who know you and want the best for you.

Love grows in community, not in secrecy.

10. Be Kind, Even If It Doesn't Work Out

Not every connection will be "the one." That's okay. End things gently. No ghosting. Leave the person better than you found them.

11. Don't Overstay on the App

This is a temporary place. You're not meant to build a following. You're here to find one person.

Aim to be off this platform, permanently, within 12 months or less.

3for3 is a place for modern introductions with traditional values.

We believe archaic dating is still beautiful, and that marriage begins with intentional courtship.